Yes, Elrond's wife left to Valinor but it's not like they're not going to see each other again : Elrond's going to Valinor one day too to get reunited with his misus. No reason to be bitchy there.
About Arwen, Elrond should just accept that his daughter has and wants to lead her own life - whether he likes it or not. Book-Elrond in his wisdom, knows and accepts this. Movie-Elrond does not : the more he objects to their relationship, the more he pushes Arwen in Aragorn's arms... he should've immediately planned their marriage, instead - and let Arwen do the Runaway Bride trick.
Besides this, why did movie-Elrond call Men "weak"? Apparently he forgot his lineage and his history of Middle-Earth. Of course, if we look at the scene in the movies where both Isildur and Elrond were standing at the edge in the Sammath Naur, with Elrond expecting Isildur to do what he has to do, which he ultimately doesn't do... : everyone would go a bit grumpy after that. But this doesn't happen this way in the book : in the book Isildur just says "Hey guys, sorry but i take this ringy as a token to remember my daddy and brother so gimme a break". So in fact, movie-Elrond made an exaggerated statement : not the race of Men is weak, but Isildur was weak.
And why did Elrond say about Aragorn that "he has chosen exile" ? Where's the love between Elrond and Aragorn? Elrond raised Aragorn as his own son, but this doesn't really show in the movies. Elrond is just a cantankerous, over-protective nutter in the movies. Of course, movie-Aragorn really isn't the most lovable character either... so again movie-Elrond has a point when he tries to get his daughter to Valinor : if i were Elrond, i'd like to see her marry some bigshot Elf in shining armor as well instead of an obscure Ranger with greasy hair.
So the conclusion is that movie-Elrond is OK.
Now what happens if we look at other Elves in the movies? Most Elves we see are tall, blond and look like girls : this is both the case in the Council of Elrond and when the Fellowship enters Lothlorien. This i didn't really like, as the fantasy cliché of Elves being blond doesn't apply in JRRT's universe : the Vanyar are all blond/fair haired and the Vanyar are the smallest subset of Elves who first made it to Valinor and after that only left Valinor once to fight in the War of Wrath.
The Noldor were dark haired, but because Finwë remarried with Indis, a Vanyarin princess (blondes are forever) blond hair entered the Noldo house --- Fingolfin, Finarfin, Galadriel, Finrod, etc.
But the Elves we see in the flicks aren't Eldar, so what i've written above doesn't apply. The Lothlorien Elves and Silvan Elves are descendants of the Teleri who stopped somewhere amongst the road to Valinor. As JRRT didn't specifically talk about hair colour for this group, i'd say both fair haired and dark haired were equally divided amongst them or maybe a 3/4 majority for dark haired Elves.
So i don't get why all Elves we see in the flicks are blond --- apparently Legolamb really did get around before joining on a little trip to Mordor. And what's with the long hair, i wonder. Poor Gimli was probably constantly asking strands of hair to "those fair Elf maidens", who in fact were men.
Of course the movie Elves don't apply JRRT's description : starlight in their eyes, their bodies radiating light, shiny hair, inexplicably beautiful... quite the contrary, if we look at Haldir and Co. But i must admit that the first time we see Galadriel ànd Celeborn in the movies, fit JRRT's description quite well, with the light and all : that was quite the perfect scene, until Celeborn began speaking.
Looks like PJ only used the "D&D Fantasy Elf"® recipe = long blond hair + pointy ears.
Give up the Halfring, she-elf...