Hi Tigiel. Welcome to PT - it's great to see new faces around here.
I read your question and the replies (good ones, too, guys!), and I know it's a bit late, but I'd like to share with you what my mother told me when I was 13. Or something like that anyway...
[u]Ungoliant's Mother's Advice for Teenage Girls[/u] :D
1) "I know it's hard to envision the future through raging hormones, but try to evaluate whether the steps that you take now will drastically affect or threaten your ambitions." (I wanted to be a world famous physicist then, so a baby at 14 didn't seem like a smart idea - and we weren't aware of AIDS back then)
2) "A woman who isn't financially and emotionally independant will be extremely vulnerable all throughout her life"
3) "Go read Virginia Woolf's 'A Room of One's Own' "
4) "Date as much as you want as long as you keep romance at an arm's length. Better still, just treat your boyfriends as friends."
5) "Go read Simone de Beauvior's 'A Woman Destroyed'"
6) "Then forget about the Battle of the Sexes - men are your friends, brothers, fathers and lovers, and they are as equally worthy of love, understanding, compassion and respect as any woman. And likewise, they are equally capable of mistakes, cruelty or pain"
7) "But be smart - never get romantically or emotionally attached to one until you've received your Bachelor's Degree from a [good] (my mother's personal requirement there) university."
8) "And don't even think of marriage until you're able to step back and honestly claim to have had a successful career.
9) "The notion of one true love per lifetime is bullsh*t - you can have as many as you want (preferably not all at the same time, of course)"
10) "And if you still feel like experimenting with sex at this age, approach it clinically and cynically. Enjoy it but before you do anything, please use a condom or ask me to put you on the pill."
It may seem outdated now, since I'm an old crone who's out of touch with the pressure that modern girls have nowadays to prove themselves & be accepted by their peers etc. But I can honestly say that I've (sort of) followed my mom's advice, and have had a good life thus far. I'm extremely successful at what I do, and can always fall back on my career should I ever need money. I married a wonderful, sensitive, caring, Faramir-like man at the age of 30 (but have met many equally wonderful ones along the way), and it the union has been blissful thus far - but I also know that I am financially, emotionally and psychologically alble to fend for myself should things go downhill.
So yeah. You'll have many more wonderful experiences as you get older, and meet many, many more men - some good, some bad. But enjoy the journey - and be smart! ;) nn[Edited on 23/8/2002 by Ungoliant]