I just don't understand this thread. Why does love=pain?
Sure, I have been in relationships where it has, but those are not true love.
As for the Nagging, I have never understood that. If you nag someone to do something, it just makes them NOT want to do it at all. Then if the person was going to do it, they refuse after that.
You ask once, if it does not get done, you either do it yourself or get someone else to do it. I have learned it is much easier to hire someone to do something once, if i want my hubby to do it. He hates having to pay for something that he can do. If he really does not want to do it, i can continue to hire them, if not he does it.
No point in fusssing over it. Every relationship is work, but in the end it really can be a lot of fun.
Being kind and considerate to your partner is a major part of it. nn[Edited on 3/15/2003 by MelliotSandybanks]