I don't hardly "tell" them my problems anymore because they just use it as fodder with their ex ("She told me she needed this...I know it's all your fault, if you hadn't asked for a divorce.....") and I feel like I'm being tested instead of listened to. I am going to pass a law when I become Queen of the World, that you can not get divorced for any reason. Anyone who wants a divorce will be forced to go on very long vacations in places reminescent of "Castaway" and "Afghanistan". We'll see how selfish you are after that....
Really sorry to hear about your parent's divorce, but forcing people to stay together is not the solution I'm afraid. Your parents seem to have fallen into the common trap that makes them forget about the real issues since they are both hurting so much. Yes, they are being a little selfish, but they probably don't realise they are. Maybe you should tell them how you feel? It might wake them up!
I don't think forcing them to stay together would help either, since they would both be miserable and would make everyone else in the family miserable too.
Don't be too hard on divorcees. It's not always as simple as telling peole to work it out or else. I'm a divorcee myself. I loved my ex-husband dearly, right up until the day he told me he didn't love me any more and was leaving me. Tell me, what else could I have done? I later found out that he had met someone else (he is living with her now). He also takes my very young children away from me by force, for periods of up to a week. When you become a mother you will understand how that feels, like having your heart squeezed out. I normally come to PT to try to forget my pain. My children's welfare is my obsession and there is nothing I would not do for them, but nothing can mend a marriage broken like mine. I must have shed bucket loads of tears over it all.
So, maybe you could try to be a little more compassionate. Nothing is more painful than marriage break-up, believe me, your parents have paid for their crime in tears and blood. I, and probably they, would do anything to turn back the clock and change it all to spare my children the pain...[Edited on 8/1/2002 by Allyssa]