Thread: Looking for advice
Because you had to ask, I don't think you are really ready for a long engagement with stay at home evenings and weekends. And you will each probably meet another while separated and change your minds, which will only cause one of you heartache or relief.
However, who am I to tell you what to do with the rest of your life, I have a hard enough time just running my own.
Who am I to tell you how to run the rest of your life? Just a guy who's tried to run long-distance relationships and failed, and a guy who's tried long engagements and failed, so both at once, IMHO is doomed from the start. But remember, you don't have to listen to me, even if I am always right.
Your still young live a little and don't get tied down. Long distance relationships don't work. I know this myself. While he's away our going to meet someone else and vica versa.
Theres alot of factors which come into play in this kinda a situation.
But I'm not telling you nothing you don't already know.
Like everyone else has said, long distance relationships don’t work! Don’t be naive enough to think that you can be that exception to the rule (like I did), because it will only increase your pain and suffering in the end. I think Grondy offered some good advice in terms of taking a ’rain check’ so to speak. Do not get involved with a long distance relationship, but at the same time wait and see how you feel about each other a year or more down the road. If the two of you are really meant to be together it will happen, even though that time may not be now. Life is long, and many things expected and unexpected will inevitably happen. It is possible for the paths that lead us astray to one day come back together again.
I would not and could not help you cause I do not know you personally.But,if you can imagine spending the rest of your life with this man,then thats one more step in your desicion.
Please don`t let that comment turn you off of him, it`s up to you.
Make sure you both trust eachother and love eachother soooooooooooooooooo much, that words can`t describe how much!
I'll be really happy.
What was your choice?
I guess we'll never know?
Good luck Arwen.