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I wouldn’t call myself a feminist or anything but hey,’.. it’s the 21st century. I don’t believe that anything is anyone’s duty.
I am not what you would call a feminist either, but I have to agree with you. I don't believe that anything is anyone's duty. I guess my biggest problem with that statement was the word duty. In our family, we all have our own chores, but not one duty.
I guess that also goes back to the topic of this thread. I mean relationships work out when people share their responsibilities and don't assign roles to one or the other. Both just do what is necessary to create a happy and loving environment around them.
Yes, most of the time Matthew cooks, but when he is not home, I have to come up with something, even if it is just sandwiches or having something delivered. If I am not capable of cleaning house, he allows me to hire someone to come help me, or he and Robbie do it. Relationships are give and take, and if all parties in the relationship are willing to do that, then there will not be pain in love.
The pain in love comes when one person takes too much and does something that the other does not find acceptable. It can be something minor to one, but catastrophic to another. I have been blessed to be in a relationship that has survived many things in the last 10-12 years that would have split up many couples. We have worked through our problems every step of the way and the longer we are together, the fewer problems we have. Unlike Elfstone, I can say that we have had a handful of fights. Three of which were true fights. Only one since we have been married. I am thankful that we have not had many of them.
I just hope that people at PT find happiness in their relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Well, I guess I can get off my soapbox now.